In this article, we will learn how Muslims raise good children, and the right way to teach a child. So, let’s get started.
Duties of parents towards their child in Islam:
1- Teach them to always be kind and say what makes others happy.
2- Teach the child about Allah and the Prophets.
3- Make them memorize the following: There is no God except Allah, and Muhammad is Allah’s Prophet.” And teach them what it means and the importance of saying it. This will teach them that three is no god but Allah and that we have to worship him. Teach the child about heaven and how important it is to worship Allah. Tell them about all the blessings that Allah gave us. And tell them that Allah has 99 names and help them memorize all the names in a fun way.
4- Be a role model and teacher to your children: kids tend to mimic what they see, so if you want them to do what they are told show them that you do the same. For example, if you want them to read you should read Infront of them, and they will do the same as you. So, teach them that they have to pray five times a day, and make them pray with you to encourage them.
5- Teach them to recite the Holy Quran daily, and try to make them memorize as much as they can. Tell them the importance of reading the Quran and how the Quran guides us through our lives. Help them understand the meaning of each verse and surah.
6- Help them memorize the Quran at an early age. Some kids managed to memorize the Quran at the age of 3 or 4 years. But not all kids can do so. So, it is considered that 6 years old is the perfect time to start teaching your kids Quran, whether via Quran online courses or by hiring a tutor.
7- Although, don’t wait until your kid reaches 6 years old, try enrolling them in an online Quran course and see their progress.
8- Teach them about the prophet’s life and how to learn from him.
9- Tell them that Dua helps us come closer to Allah and that whenever they want something they should ask Allah for his help. And if Allah didn’t grant them what they wish for then they should have patience. Teach them to always turn to Allah, he is the only one that can help them, and that there is nothing impossible to him.
10- Recite them the dua that the prophet used to recite.
11- Read them bedtime stories about the Prophet, and stories from the Quran. Kids love stories and learn from it, so you should focus on that part, read them stories that will teach them to be kind and learn to have faith in Allah and love him. The way you teach them is important, raising children with only fear in their hearts is wrong. Don’t teach them to fear Allah and the Quran. Teach them to love Allah and tell them about all the blessings that Allah gave us. This way they will learn to love and worship Allah from all their hearts instead of doing so because they are afraid of what will happen if they don’t do so.
12- Tell them that whenever they hear the prophet’s name they should say “Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Salam” which means (peace and blessing be upon him).
13- Teach them to use the guidance of the Quran and sunnah in their daily life.
14- Tell them about heaven and the afterlife, tell them that it is the place where good and kind people go to.
15- Spend time with them and teach them that family is important, and be close to them so that they can always come to you whenever they want guidance, instead of raising them to fear you. Make sure to always ask your children about their day and how they did at school. If they have any problem help them to solve it.
16- Teach your child not to be shy, if they want to say something or if they have any idea then they should express it.
17- Encourage them to be creative, show them how proud you are of them, and don’t ever mock their work. Show them that you’re excited to see their next work of art.
How should parents treat their child in Islam?
Grow them to love Allah and the Quran, teach them about the prophet (peace and blessing be upon him) life, and how kind he was. Take them to Quran classes to learn how to recite Quran correctly.
Treat them with love and kindness, show them that you care about them and no matter what they do you will always be proud of them.
Children want to feel their parent’s love, and if you take that away from them, they will tend to do anything that will get you made of them or angry just to get your attention. So spend as much as you can with your child and show him/her how much you care.
What does Islam say about parenting?
Being a parent in Islam is not easy, a parent should teach the kids about Allah and Islam, to guide them through their life and teach them to worship Allah and to always be kind to others.
Here’s a quranic verses on child upbringing:
وَلَا تَقْتُلُوا أَوْلَادَكُمْ خَشْيَةَ إِمْلَاقٍ ۖ نَّحْنُ نَرْزُقُهُمْ وَإِيَّاكُمْ ۚ إِنَّ قَتْلَهُمْ كَانَ خِطْئًا كَبِيرًا
And do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We provide for them and for you. Indeed, their killing is ever a great sin
Allah (SWT) says,
يأيها الذين آمنوا قوا أنفسكم واهليكم نارا وقودها الناس والحجارة عليها ملائكة غلاظ شداد (التحريم : 6)
O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are appointedangels, harsh and severe. [Qur’an 66: 6]
وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ وَهْنًا عَلَىٰ وَهْنٍ وَفِصَالُهُ فِي عَامَيْنِ أَنِ اشْكُرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيْكَ إِلَيَّ الْمَصِيرُ – 31:14
And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination
وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا ۖ وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا ۖ وَاتَّبِعْ سَبِيلَ مَنْ أَنَابَ إِلَيَّ ۚ ثُمَّ إِلَيَّ مَرْجِعُكُمْ فَأُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ – 31:15
But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.
What is Islam about for kids?
Here is a Hadith on parenting:
Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessing be upon him) said: “Observe justice in dealing with your children in the same manner in which you expect them to observe justice in being kind and good to you.”
How does Islam influence family life?
Islam teaches us about the importance of family, we should take care of one another, to show love and support, and always be there for those once in need.
Importance of parenting in Islam?
Parents play a big role in raising a good child that understands Islam and his responsibilities.